About

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My children tell me I’m embarrassing in these sunglasses, which makes me want to wear them ALL THE TIME.

Tēnā koe. I’m a mother of two, daughter, sister, and aunty from Tāmaki Makaurau Auckland. I’m pākehā and whakapapa to Denmark, Whales, Scotland, England, Ireland and Iceland.

Professionally, I tell stories or help tell other people’s stories in the media. I like to interview people doing things to make their communities and world better, particularly women. Or people being real about how hard life can be sometimes. I’m not into perfection.

Living in Aotearoa, a colonised country, I’ve been working to uncolonise my mind but it’s ongoing work and I don’t expect I will ever arrive at a point of completion. The more I learn the more I have to unlearn. Toitū Te Tiriti!

Personally, I write about the struggles we all have to exist peacefully inside the bodies and minds we’ve been given, especially in a world loaded with deep-rooted intergenerational bias (racism, weight discrimination, ableism, whiteness, the patriarchy).

For over a decade I have been waving my arms about body acceptance. I’ve talked to Kathryn Ryan on Radio New Zealand about body image and bulimia and written stories for Sunday. I’ve interviewed twenty other amazing people and they all sit on FABIK including Glennon Doyle. In 2017, I began to give talks in schools about the relentless messages bombarding young women through advertising and socials. It was called Pretty Smart and ran until Covid. I’ve also campaigned with the global group, Anybody, and a few years back we petitioned to dismantle games selling liposuction and nose jobs to three year olds. Apple removed them.

Ruby Jones, my friend and talented illustrator, and I have created Like Bodies Like Minds, a project celebrating the intersection between body image and mental health. In 2025 it became an exhibition and launched at Tūranga in Christchurch. Photos here. We hope to take it around Aotearoa.

Every year I get to work with the YWCA on my favourite project – Y25: celebrating 25 women & gender-diverse trailblazers under the age of 25 doing kickass things.

This site was originally a blog and it dates back to 2010 when I lived with my young family at a camp for children in a redwood forest in California. I don’t post stories here anymore and I keep thinking I should delete this site but it captured a part of our history – including a time when a murderer was in our camp and the SWAT team were called in to embark on a six week man-hunt. True story!

Thanks for visiting, please don’t follow me as you’ll never get an email (I’m such an influencer). But I like to connect with like-minded people so get in touch if you have a story or project in mind.

Ngā mihi nui
Angela

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“I knew who I was this morning, but I’ve changed a few times since then.”
― Lewis Carroll


20 responses to “About”

  1. Annette Avatar
    Annette

    Oh you are not mad… except perhaps in the Einstein pre-ritalin way! love Annette

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    1. Angela Maree Barnett Avatar

      Oh thank you my friend. A touch of madness keeps things interesting I say.

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  2. kloppenmum Avatar
    kloppenmum

    Team messy sums us up too! We both did our OE before we met each other – kinda wish we’d done some together…but kids in school now, much trickier.
    Just popped in to see how you went with the eye-contact trick.

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    1. Angela Maree Barnett Avatar

      Hello. The eye-contact trick totally works, thank you. You haven’t been writing for a while, hope things are good in Kloppenmum life. Angela

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  3. suzanne Avatar
    suzanne

    Hi Angela,
    I’m a producer in Los Angeles working on a show about vacations gone awry. I enjoyed your blog about accidentally booking a nudist resort holiday, and would love to talk to you about it.

    The best way to reach me is on my cell: (213)703-9075
    Look forward to hearing from you!

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    1. Angela Maree Barnett Avatar

      Hello Suzanne. Thanks for your interest in that story but it is definitely only something that exists in words. My nude body is not ready for your viewer’s eyes. Best.

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  4. ksbeth Avatar

    hi and thanks for reading and following my words. i love your blog and all of the whimsy/mayhem/full life contained within. i look forward to reading more – best, beth

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    1. Angela Maree Barnett Avatar

      Hello Beth. Thanks for reading my words and joining the ride. Keep up your great work. Angela. :)

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  5. Anna Waldherr Avatar

    Thank you so much for the follow. I hope I don’t disappoint. :0)

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    1. Angela Maree Barnett Avatar

      Thank you Anna. Most definitely not disappointing.

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  6. pinklightsabre Avatar
    pinklightsabre

    You have quite a lot going on here, it’s great. Seems it’s the detours, the squiggly parts of the journey that are most interesting, the imperfections we can all relate to — that also hide on the outskirts beneath a marketed feeling of transcendence. That’s some good shit: sign me up for the swearing list.

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    1. Angela Maree Barnett Avatar

      Hey hey. Thanks for noticing and saying so. Life is definitely more interesting on the edges, and it is our imperfections that connect us somehow. Glad you’re a fellow cusser too. Peace. :)

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    2. walt walker Avatar

      I’m in too. I can’t resist a phrase like ‘Stunt Chicken.’

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      1. Angela Maree Barnett Avatar

        Thank you. I do hope that’s your real name Walt Walker.

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        1. walt walker Avatar

          Because it is so awesome?

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  7. Louis Reddin Avatar
    Louis Reddin

    I’m enjoying your articles but I wanted to let you know that to me, there is nothing ew about mothers masturbating. For a whole list of reasons I’m not going to get into in this post, it’s incredibly erotic and hot.

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    1. Angela Maree Barnett Avatar

      Ew. Please take your hot and erotic elsewhere.

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  8. When You send an e-mail to me – the urban kit Avatar

    […] such an emotion and she is […]

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  9. Bruce Avatar
    Bruce

    Enjoyed your piece in today’s Sunday paper on blushing. As a painfully shy child, I share your pain. While it has lessened with age, the beetroot blush still bursts forth in my most embarrassing moments. I am keen to know more about the treatment itself and where one finds a good hypnotherapist in Hawkes Bay.

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    1. Angela Maree Barnett Avatar

      Hello Bruce, thank you for writing to me. I understand how annoying the blush can be when it bursts forth when we need it the least. I went to see a hypnotherapist in Wellington – Meredith McCarthy. You could contact her and ask about Hawkes Bay or maybe she might work over zoom? (I’m not sure if that’s possible with hypnotherapy but worth asking, mine’s much more manageable now). I’m also a Hawkes Bay person, I grew up there. All the best, Angela – https://www.meredithmccarthy.com/

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